How to Be Your Own Best Friend
It’s kinda scary to think about, but the only person that will definitely be with you your whole life is yourself. So, it’s so important to find ways to learn to accept & even love yourself.
I created this blog to help keep me accountable on my own journey and, in-turn, help you lovely person reading this post. You Are Wonderful!
The journey to accepting yourself isn’t easy. So, I really hope that you find this post helpful!
1. Consider Your Words
‘If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself’. I’ve read variations of this a lot over the years – but it’s completely true. We’re always so supportive of our friends (while also being truthful). So, why do we think it’s okay to say such negative things to ourselves? If you start thinking negative thoughts about yourself, take a moment to stop and consider whether you’d say this to a friend? If you wouldn’t try to reframe the thought or take yourself out of the space that triggered those negative thoughts.
If you’re really struggling to think of anything positive about yourself, ask someone you know – your partner, a family member, someone on the internet, anyone. Take what they say and process it. Repeat it to yourself. Start believing it. I know it’s a lot easier said than done.
If you’ve been following me for a while, then you know that I love a good quote and I find them super helpful to read in the morning for an instant pick me up (you can read a whole post about it here). And I will often spend time throughout the day repeating those words to myself.
2. Focus On Your Needs
Personally, I know that I am more negative about myself when I am stressed or struggling with something. There are some life stressors that you can’t escape from and that’s fine. But it’s important to take extra care of yourself on those days. This could be as simple as getting an early night or having a pamper. Or if you want to let your hair down and go out for the night – do it! Look after yourself first.
If you’re looking for some tips on how to have a great pamper – click here.
3. Learn About Yourself
If you’ve never explored your talents, then you may think that you’re rubbish at everything, and therefore constantly be negative. Without getting into a discussion about the current schooling system, the way the education system works doesn’t suit everyone – and that is more than okay! I know a few people who were made to feel stupid & inadequate because they weren’t as academic as others. But this is most definitely not true!
Take some time to try to new hobbies and find something that you enjoy doing and makes you feel good. It also doesn’t matter if you’re not that good at it – if you enjoy doing it, carry on! Remember to choose passion over perfection - do what makes you happy!
4. Spend Quality Time With Yourself
Another thing that I know can instigate negative thoughts is being alone. However, you need to remember that you’re not alone, you’re with yourself. Linked to the point above, find hobbies that you enjoy and can do by yourself. I love just sitting with a cuppa and reading a book. I can get lost in another universe for an hour or so and it makes me feel happy on the inside.
On the note of reading, I have set up a Goodreads account to try and help keep myself more accountable when it comes to reading. I love reading sand have so many books that I want to read, but never allow myself enough time. So, if you want to have a nosey at that, click here. And if you have any tips for using Goodreads please let me know as I am a little lost…
I also had the book ‘Be Your Own Best Friend: The Glorious Truths of Being Female’ come up on my Amazon recommended recently, so I am definitely adding it to my list.
Do you have any tips for being your own best friend? Please leave them in the comments below.
Cerys x
