How I’m Learning To Love Myself
Edited April 2020
I’ve never been confident about how I look. I’ve always had at least one thing that I’m insecure about and it would constantly play on my mind. I know that basically everyone has insecurities about their bodies and how they look; but that doesn’t make it healthy.
It’s so important that we learn to love and appreciate our bodies; no matter who you are or what you look like. Self-love is vital.
In no way am I saying that I suddenly snapped out of feeling negative about myself and suddenly love the way I look, because I don’t. And I’m far from feeling good about myself. But I am slowly learning to accept my flaws and find things that do make me feel more confident.
I’m majorly lucky that I am surrounded by family and friends who help me and encourage me to feel good about myself. Sometimes just a simple compliment can make me feel better.
Another way that can help boost my confidence is simply by putting on an outfit that makes me feel good. Whether that be a pair of skinny jeans and a body suit or a baggy jumper and culottes or sometimes it’s just my pyjamas. The outfits that make me feel confident changes depending on what mood I’m in, what I’m doing and what my hormones are doing. But wearing something that suits me and shows off the parts of my body that I like, does often make me feel better about how I feel about my body.
I’d also wanted to dye my hair red for as long as I can remember. So, one day, I just did it. I should just add here that my friend Jess dyed it for me. She always insists that I ensure that everyone knows that. And honestly, it’s made me feel so much better about myself. I love that no matter what I wear, I always have the bright pop of red to complete every outfit.
Finding something that you enjoy doing can also help to boost your mood. Personally, I find that the happier mood I am in, the better I feel about myself and the way that I look. The below photos are of when my mother, family friends Cath & Laura and I completed Pretty Muddy for Cancer Research. I love attempting assault courses and I’m not afraid of getting muddy; so, this was one of the best things that I’ve ever done. And it allowed us to raise money for charity. By raising the money and doing an activity that I love, it again put me in a good mood and therefore increase my self-confidence. If anyone hasn’t tried a muddy assault course, I highly recommend!
Although I’ve been losing weight, I haven’t decided whether that has helped with my body confidence or made it worse. I love having curves and wearing clothes that shows this off. However, I sometimes feel like I’m losing my curves in certain areas or they’re less noticeable in certain outfits. However, this is probably totally psychological.
Around 2010 I went to Gran Canaria where I went scuba diving. It was one of the best experiences that I’ve ever had! However, squeezing in and out of a wetsuit isn’t necessarily the easiest. But one of my big goals is to do it again and feel confident in a wetsuit (and hopefully get a nice tan too).
And if I’m having a particularly bad day, I will browse Instagram for positive role models. However, be careful not to compare yourself to anyone that you’re looking at. Use it as a way to find positive re-enforcement.
Body confidence is a journey that I will continue to make throughout my life. I will definitely continue creating confidence posts and document my journey through it all.
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Cerys x
